Recently, I heard this dialogue from a popular web series: “ Do you have the energy to do it all over again, to meet someone, get to know them, the whole process, and then fall in love?” Though this was a very sweet line in that specific context. It made me wonder how our entire generation loves at their convenience and from within their comfort zones.
The sad side to this is many of us are oblivious to this fact entirely that we are loving at our convenience. Love to all of us has become this mindfully modest and heartfully glamorous piece that we need and then we cruelly resort to terming the concept as flawed whereas these flaws were created by us the entire time.
Our generation has this very bad habit of not matching their words with their actions, their smiles with their feelings and their Instagram bio’s with their real personality. All of you reading this must have disagreed at this point, thinking to yourself, no not completely, maybe a few times but not entirely but that’s the catch. We do not realize it. We do not do this because we are bad people. we are wired this way. The real reason we do not match our words with actions is that we just do that to put the safety envelope in our pockets and bring the entire relationship to the safer side of the knife. We are scared to lose the people we call our loved ones and hence we just touch base at times to make sure the relationship is not stranded.
I’m not saying that everybody who is checking up on people randomly is just playing it safe. What I mean to say that is we are so fixated in our own comfort zones, built-up sky walls, and anti-vulnerability mechanisms that we forget to be true to ourselves and the people we try to love. We are so caught up in our boundaries that we do not leave any space for what can actually happen.
So, before it’s too late, be honest with yourself and Mend your relationships, so you can be free and true with yourself and the others. get out of your comfort zone, do not stick to extreme boundaries that you have created yourself, and act as if that’s a cage. why do you always want to make an instant decision? why do you always look for shortcuts? to escape that one conversation? why do you not put as much effort into your actions as much as you do into your words?
What I really want to convey is that Pain is inevitable. It is. No matter how high your walls are or how comfortable you are in your own zone, you will be hurt. You will be. So try to love people even when it is hard because every kind of love is hard. You just have to choose which hard you want to put up with. whom do you never want to hurt? whom do you not want to lose? Because if you keep loving at your convenience, you are going to lose them one day...
